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| Pilgrim
Chapel is an exceptionally beautiful
site for your wedding, and I am delighted the folks there have invited me to lead your ceremony. Whether you want a
traditional, civil, multi-faith,
or The folks at Pilgrim
Chapel and I want planning
When Pilgrim Chapel asks me to preside over your marriage ceremony, I write you to let you know I look forward to sharing your wedding day. I'll ask you some basic questions so I can get started helping you plan. I'll refer you to some resources on this web site. We can plan together what you want easily by email. #BriefRental You have rented an extraordinary facility for your wedding. I always enjoy working with the great Pilgrim Chapel staff. The place is clean, beautiful, safe, and adaptable. But because your rental is brief, you may need to plan your time carefully. The place is so popular, there may be an event right before or right after your rental. * The doors open 15 minutes before the beginning of your rental time to you and to your guests, so you may want to announce a ceremony time a few minutes after your rental begins, and remind your guests not to arrive before the doors open. If you have musicians and photographers, or you have placed an order from a florist, please let them also know not to arrive until your rental time begins.You can have a complete, unrushed, and beautiful ceremony by planning the time well. If you may need more time, I suggest you contact the folks at Pilgrim Chapel to see if a longer rental might be possible. The staff there and I are eager to make your wedding all that you want it to be. #HowToPlan
EMAIL PLANNING 2b. Name in ceremony (James or Jim) LEARN MORE 2c. Age today 2d. Address 2e. Phone(s) 2f. Best eMail address 3a. Second Person's legal name 3b. Name in ceremony (Joan or Jo) LEARN MORE 3c. Age today 3d. Address 3e. Phone(s) 3f. Best eMail address 4. Will you have a
Missouri marriage license or please include the names of your two adult witnesses to sign the license and certificate here: ________ If the wedding is just the two of you, let the folks at Pilgrim Chapel and me know so we can provide two witnesses to sign the legal documents. 6. As far as religion
goes, the ceremony should
be 7. How many people (total everyone) might attend? 8. About marriage vows --a. We wish traditional vows. b. We will write our own, perhaps adapting these suggestions. #aboutReadings 9. About readings -- a. We want no readings. b. We want the following from the list here, numbered: c. We have chosen other reading(s), namely: ---- 9. x. We want the minister to do the reading. y. The person(s) to offer the reading(s): 10. If you are
presently out of town, in addition to the witnesses (#5 above) LEARN MORE 12. After you
are dressed, ready for the
ceremony, 13. Will you exchange
rings? 14. Please include a
remembrance
of those not with us 15. Your plans for music:
live / recorded / none 16.
Your plans for photography:
#sequence Informal Greeting and Lighting of Candles if appropriate Prelude and special seatings if any Processional Welcome by the minister Consent and Presentations Prayer if desired Reading(s) if desired Vows and Rings and any special rite Pronouncement and embrace Benediction or Farewell Wish Recessional 18. If you have a wedding announcement or registry site (theknot.com, zola.com, appycouple.com, withjoy.com, etc), noting it here will help me get acquainted and prepare for your wedding. *** And of course you can send me any other information you would like me to have in order to understand your wishes for the ceremony. 19. The "paperwork"usually includes both a License and a Certificate. The Marriage Certificate is yours to keep. (A Certified Copy of the License can be sent to you if you requested it when applying for your License, or you can request it later.) a. We will return the License to the Court. b. We'd prefer you to return the License. 20. If you have not toured the Chapel, you might want to see some indoor and outdoor photos. Be sure to click the link to the 3D immersive image and navigate with your computer mouse or finger and look around. 21. Most planning can be completed by email
with responses to the questions above. I'll want to get all your
questions answered! Arrangements like entrances or a processional can
be made when you arrive. LOOKING FORWARD ___________________
#nicknameNAME USED IN CEREMONY Let me know if you prefer to be called by your familiar name ("nickname") during the wedding (Jim instead of James). ___________________
Usually the wedding party is arranged in the chancel (front platform) as shown with the first four of nine rows of pews in the nave (main part of the chapel). M=Minister, B=Bride, G=Groom. Marriages between two men can substitute G for B; and two women can substitute B for G.
___________________ #participants WEDDING ATTENDANTS AND PARTICIPANTS In addition to the couple and minister, others may be involved in ceremony. Same-sex couples can adapt as they wish. Besides the two witnesses, wedding roles may be: Bride's escort Best man and Maid/Matron of Honor, or other such honored attendants Bride's Women and Groom's Men Flower Girl or Boy, Ring Bearer Readers, Anyone offering a Prayer Presenters (often parents) Flower Duty (often Maid of Honor) to hold the Bride's flowers during most of the ceremony Ushers Guest Book attendant ---- Musician, Photographer, Wedding Coordinator
#signing WITNESSES SIGN MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS Before the wedding, after I prepare the license and certificate, I invite the witnesses to sign. Most brides and grooms want to be with their guests or have photos taken and not fuss with paperwork after the ceremony, and chasing down the witnesses can be awkward. Taking care of the legal requirements before the ceremony works well for everyone. ___________________ #informal |
| #license ABOUT THE MARRIAGE LICENSE Pilgrim Chapel marriages require a Missouri License, good for 30 days. Some couples request a Certified Copy when they apply for the License to be mailed to them after the wedding. The courthouse will provide you with both a License to be returned* and a Certificate which is yours to keep after the ceremony. When you arrive at the Chapel, please place the envelope with the documents on the chancel table. Then, while your guests are gathering, I'll take about five minutes to prepare documents, and then I’ll invite your two adult witnesses to sign. You have nothing to sign. Here is more information about the License: https://www.cres.org/wed_supplements.htm#LicenseCertificate Here is Jackson County's Marriage License website: https://www.jacksongov.org/Government/Departments/Recorder-of-Deeds/Apply-for-a-Marriage-License -----------
* You are welcome to return the license to the courthouse yourselves -- I'll just ask you to sign a receipt to relieve me of this legal responsibility. for final wedding preparation BRING WITH YOU -------- 1. license-certificate envelope or folder package 2. vows if you wrote yours and did not send them to me to be printed 3. rings and items (such as a Unity Candle Set) if you plan a special rite 4. playlist and device if you are using recorded music REMINDERS --------- 5. Before the ceremony, your two adult witnesses will sign the license and certificate. LEARN MORE 6. During the ceremony, face each other and enjoy looking at each other, not me or my wedding book. 7. After I pronounce you married and you embrace, then face your guests and wait. I'll ask everyone to stand for the concluding Benediction or Best Wishes; then you recess. 8. After the ceremony, take your marriage certificate from the chancel table. FOR A DETAILED CHECK LIST: https://cres.org/wed_supplements.htm#WedTimeCheckList FOR REMINDERS ABOUT CEREMONY DETAILS: https://cres.org/wed_supplements.htm#CeremonyReminders |
