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These Planning Points may be useful. Send them to me at vern@cres.org. 1a. Wedding date and
ceremony start time. 2b. Name in ceremony (James or Jim) LEARN MORE 2c. Age today 2d. Address 2e. Phone(s) 2f. Email address 3a. Second Person's legal name 3b. Name in ceremony (Joan or Jo) LEARN MORE 3c. Age today 3d. Address 3e. Phone(s) 3f. Email address 4. Will you have a marriage license or is this wedding a ceremonial occasion without legal considerations? a. legal with marriage license LEARN MORE b. ceremonial only LEARN MORE c. any details you wish to share FOR PILGRIM CHAPEL, A LICENSE IS REQUIRED FROM ANY MISSOURI COUNTY. MANY COUPLES IN KANSAS CITY USE JACKSON COUNTY. PLATTE AND CLAY COUNTIES PROVIDE GOOD CERTIFICATES, LAFAYETTE PROVIDES NONE. IF YOU USE BUCHANAN COUNTY, YOU MUST RETURN THE LICENSE AFTER THE WEDDING. 5. If you will have a marriage license, please include the names of your two adult witnesses to sign the documents (license, certificate) here: 6. As far as RELIGION
goes, the ceremony should
be a. We wish TRADITIONAL VOWS. b. We will write our own, perhaps adapting THESE SUGGESTIONS. #aboutReadings 8a. About readings -- a. We want no readings. b. From the list here we want the following, numbered . . . . c. We have chosen other reading(s), namely: 8b. Reader(s) -- x. We want the minister to do the reading. y. The person(s) to offer the reading(s): 9. How many people (total everyone) might attend? 10. If you are presently out of town, when will you both will arrive in Kansas City? -=:::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::=- In addition to the couple and minister, others may be involved in ceremony. Same-sex couples can adapt as they wish. Besides the * two witnesses, wedding roles may be -- Examples for large wedding-- * Bride's Escort: Amati Scorta, Jane's father * Bride's presenter: Bride's Mom and Dad * Groom's presenter: Groom's Mom and Uncle Tio Matron or Maid of Honor: Mejor Amiga, bride's aunt Best Man: Meilleur Ami, groom's best friend Bridesmaids: Lucky Walker, Lulu Stertch Groomsmen: Guy Walker, Kid Stretch Flower Girl or Boy: Violet Fluriste, Lucky's daughter (5 yrs old) Ring-bearer: Porteur Danneu, Lucky's son (6 yrs old) Ushers: Groom's brother, Bride's aunt Readers: Son Oncle, Bride's uncle Guest Book attendant: Paige Binding, neighbor Flower duty: If the bride carries flowers and has no attendant standing with her, who will hold the flowers from after the formal welcome until just before the concluding benediction? Musician: Peg Strings, guitar Sound Engineer: Vol Dial, friend Photography: Pic Graphie, Super Photo Studio Videographer: Lens Corder, Sharp Memories, Inc #WedPlanner Planner: Wedding planners or coordinators are not usually necessary. If you choose to hire one, please provide the name and contact information. 12. After you
are dressed and ready for the
ceremony, 13. Will you exchange
rings? 14.
Do you want to include
your children in a vow ceremony?
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Your entrance / processional
plans: 16. Please include a remembrance of those not with us by name: 17.
Any announcements
you want made by the minister, such as 18.
Your plans for MUSIC:
live / recorded / none 19.
Your plans for photography:
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Witnesses sign license, certificate LEARN
MORE Welcome by the minister Consent and Presentations Prayer [if desired] Reading(s) [if desired] Exchanging of Vows and rings [Any special rite] Pronouncement and embrace Benediction [or Farewell Wish] Recessional 21. If you have a wedding announcement or registry site (theknot.com, zola.com, appycouple.com, withjoy.com, etc), noting it here will help me get acquainted and prepare for your wedding. If you have an electronic invitation, or can take a picture of your printed invitation, and can send that to me, I'll have a better idea of the kind of wedding you envision. 22. The "paperwork" usually includes both a License and a Certificate. The Marriage Certificate is yours to keep. (A Certified Copy of the License can be sent to you if you requested it when applying for your License, or you can request it later.) a. We will return the License to the Court. b. We'd prefer you to return the License. ------------------------------------------ EXAMPLES OF SPECIAL RITES The couple provides the equipment and materials ------------------------------------------
ABOUT THE INFORMAL GREETING By welcoming your guests to what may be for them an unfamiliar place, with appropriate reminders (such as the custom of standing when the bride appears) and previewing the ceremony, a more comfortable and enjoyable wedding for everyone can then begin. #nickname NAME USED IN CEREMONY Let me know if you prefer to be called by your familiar name ("nickname") during the wedding (Jim instead of James, Babs instead of Barbara). #signing WITNESSES SIGN MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS Before the wedding, after I prepare the license and certificate, I invite the witnesses to sign. Most brides and grooms want to be with their guests or have photos taken and not fuss with paperwork after the ceremony, and chasing down the witnesses can be awkward. Taking care of the legal requirements before the ceremony works well for everyone. One of you will sign a receipt for the endorsed license; and you'll receive both the documents, the Certificate for you to keep and the License for you to return by mail or in person, as you prefer. #more_ideas MORE IDEAS Your wedding should be what you want it to be. When we visit to plan the ceremony, as I get to know you, I may have suggestions for achieving your desires. If you wish to examine ideas available on the web for additional ideas before we meet, here is one website that may be helpful. #blended BLENDED FAMILY Option 1: Parenthood brings with it a lifetime of unique responsibilities and immeasurable rewards. (a) As a married couple, __ and __, do you celebrate and welcome these children, __ and __, into your marriage and enlarged family, expanding your love and commitment as parents to embrace them fully as your children together? (b) Will you love them unconditionally, respect their individuality, model for them the values of kindness, honesty, and compassion, sharing in the joy of their accomplishments and their milestones, and cheering them through every chapter of their lives with steadfast support? WE WILL. Children, You have just heard this promise of love from your married parents. Do you accept and return this love as you become a family in a new way through this marriage? WE DO. [Depending on ages, more may be said.] Option 2: The parents and adults can mix colored sand or glass beads together to celebrate the beauty of individuality within the mixture of a family bonded together. Option 3: Parents can present each child with a gift, or simply by hugging each. Option 4: The vows said by the couple can be expanded to include the children. Option 5: Children can be recognized by their silent participation in the ceremony by taking roles such as made of honor, bed man, reader, and such. Other Options: Various websites such as thes offer additional ideas: https://www.owlandroseceremonies.com/blog/vows-to-step-kids-blended-family-vows |
