CRES founded 1982  —   Pilgrim Chapel   —   816.753.6719  pilgrim@pilgrimcenterinc.org
 


We draw upon the world’s secular and religious traditions,
respecting the perspectives of both doubter and believer.
Valentine's Day
 
at Pilgrim Chapel

Link to the Chapel
for Valentine's Day

816-753-6719
Kansas City's historic Pilgrim Chapel
is an exceptionally beautiful site
for your Valentine's Day wedding.
I am delighted that the folks there
have invited me to lead your 5-minute Valentine's Day ceremony.

Here is my email address: vern.barnet@gmail.com .

1. Obtain a Mrarriage License from any county in the State of Missouri. LEARN MORE

2. To prepare, please let me know which form of ceremony you prefer.  FOR VOW RENEWAL, CLICK HERE.
  •  Civil (non-religious)
  •  Christian, non-denominational
  •  Spiritual (without reference to a specific faith) 
3. In your email, tell me if you want to be addressed during the ceremony by your familiar name (Jim instead of James, Babs instead of Barbara).

4. Send me a photo of your Marriage License from any Misouri county dated after January 14. With information from the License, I will prepare a special color Certificate and have it printed for you in advance of your wedding.  
LEARN MORE

5. Below is a check-list for your wedding day.

LOOKING FORWARD
     I look forward to celebrating your love and
     commitment on your Wedding Day!
Vern Barnet
 ABOUT YOUR MINISTER
 
#documents
 ABOUT THE MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS
1. DOCUMENTS
     Chapel marriages require a Missouri License, good for 30 days. The courthouse will provide you with a License to be returned and a Certificate form. I provide a Certificate which is yours to keep.
     Some couples also request a Certified Copy of the License when they apply for the License, to be mailed to them after the wedding. 
     I provide a Receipt for one of you to sign.

Here is Jackson County's Marriage License website: https://www.jacksongov.org/Government/Departments/Recorder-of-Deeds/Apply-for-a-Marriage-License


 Here is Platte County's Marriage License website
https://www.co.platte.mo.us/marriage-license


 Here is Clay County's Marriage License website:
https://www.claycountymo.gov/259/Marriage-License
Clay County is now requesting "the name and phone number of the officiant" in the application process.
     You can supply "The Rev. Vern Barnet, D.Mn.,"
     with the Chapel's phone number, 816-753-6719.











2. PRESENT THE DOCUMENTS
     When you arrive at the Chapel, please place the envelope or folder with the documents from the court on the chancel table or give them to Rocio or Amelia or me.

3. WITNESSES SIGN MARRIAGE DOCUMENTS
     Before the wedding, I'll take a few minutes to prepare the documents, and then I’ll invite your two adult witnesses to sign. If you did not bring witnesses, the Chapel will supply them.

4. THE RECEIPT FOR THE LICENSE
One of the couple signs a Receipt for the endorsed license.

5. THE WEDDING !

6. YOU LEAVE WITH THE DOCUMENTS 
* You keep the Certificate and
* return the endorsed License to the court by mail
(an envelope for this is usually provided by the court) or you can return it in person if you prefer. You will find instructions for returning the license with it.
    
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#checklist 
 
Check List and Reminders

BRING WITH YOU --------

1. license-certificate envelope or folder package

2. rings if part of the ceremony

REMINDERS  ---------

3. During the ceremony, face each other and enjoy looking at each other, not at me or my wedding book.
#order
4. Here is the Wedding Ceremony Sequence:
 
    Greetings from the minister
    Prayer if desired
    Vows and Rings
    Pronouncement and Embrace
    Benediction or Farewell Wish
    Presentation of the Marriage Documents   

5. After I pronounce you married and you embrace, I'll offer a concluding Benediction or Best Wishes, and present you with your endorsed license and certificate.

6. Be sure you have the marriage documents with you when you leave the Chapel. Information you might want about them is included.

#Data
LICENSE INFORMATION FOR CERTIFICATE

In order to prepare and print a color Marriage Certificate according to Missouri law (451.110),
the following information is required:
  • The names of the parties as given on the Marriage License
  • The residence (town) of each party
  • The date the License was issueed
  • The County issuing the License
  • For convenience, I also include any numbers on the License. 
Instead of sending a photo of the License, you can carefully copy and send this information.


#bio

The Reverend Vern Barnet, DMn

    Dr Vern Barnet, ordained in 1970, founded CRES in 1982 as a multi-faith resource for Kansas City. For eighteen years, his column, “Faiths and Beliefs,” appeared each Wednesday in The Kansas City Star into retirement. The recipient of many awards for his civic and professional activities, and author and editior of numerous articles, poems, and reviews, and several books, he has taught at area colleges and seminaries.

You can find him on Wikipedia and on the CRES website.






#renewal
WEDDING VOW
RENEWAL CEREMONY
under preparatiom

Here is my email address: vern.barnet@gmail.com .

To prepare, please let me know which form of ceremony you prefer.
  •  Civil (non-religious)
  •  Christian, non-denominational
  •  Spiritual (without reference to a specific faith) 
Please tell me if you want to be addressed during the ceremony by your familiar name (Jim instead of James, Babs instead of Barbara).

For your Vow Renewal Certificate, please send the following to me at vern.barnet@gmail.com --
  • The date of your marriage
  • Place of your marriage
  • Your names as you wish them to appear on the Valentine's Day Vow Renewal Certificate
  • Optional: City and State of Marriage
  • Optional: Names of your children
LOOKING FORWARD
     I look forward to celebrating your continuing love and commitment with your Vow Renewal!
Vern Barnet
 ABOUT YOUR MINISTER